Thursday, January 24, 2013


Just felt the need this morning to write down somewhere and document so to speak the fact that I have one of the world's best husbands!  What in the world I would ever do without him is something I just couldn't bear to figure out.

Life with mom this week has just been hard....She requires A LOT of help.  Both physically (getting up and down off of anything, bathing, dressing, eating, moving from room to room, using the bathroom and on and on) and emotionally.  She is weak, overwhelmed, anxious, tired, and needy.  She is trying soo hard to get better doing every little thing she should, but it is a SLOW SLOW process. Most of the things I do for mom would honestly not be that big of a deal if I was not dealing with the physical limitations I have myself.  My knees are soo shot that just propelling myself around where I need to go is already hard.  But when I add on everything I have to do to help mom my knees are just throbbing by the end of the day.  And my stomach is still NOT right.  Some days are alot better than others, but I rarely have one that doesn't present an issue or two. I guess that is just what life is with irritable bowel.  I like to stay busy (at least mentally if I am hurting) as best as I can every day, and yet most of this week has just been a blur of preparing and taking meals to mom, getting her dressed and undressed, remembering her pills, and just generally caring for her.  And of course several weeks before this one were lost in a swirl of hospital rooms or bumper to bumper traffic going back and forth.  The rain today is adding to my frustrations, and it is to continue for at least 5 days I hear.  Which is really a good thing as goodness knows California needs the rain.

The point of this is NOT to whine.  I have said it before, and I will say it again, I hate whining!  Especially when I hear it coming out of my own mouth.  I am not looking for pity, (hate that too!) and I have NO DOUBT that the Lord will grant me all the grace and strength I need to cope with this season in my life.  The point of this is to thank Him for a husband who is there for me.  Who tries his best to make things easier for me.  Who prays for me, cooks for me, and makes me laugh. This morning he brought mom her coffee in her bed after getting her propped up and ready, and then made tea for me and told me he'd be home by 4 so I can go and get my hair done (I have had to cancel the last two appointments as there was no one to keep mom).   OH!  And told me to leave out what I want for dinner and he'd have it ready when I get home.   smile   Now it really doesn't get much better does it?   So thank you Lord for blessing me so, and may this example of loving and serving like you love, be an inspiration to me to do the same!


  1. Debbie
    I don't think you need any inspiration to serve, you are doing it in a big way already with your Mother.
    I will keep praying for you!
    You do have a wonderful husband. The Lord has blessed you.

  2. What a wonderful man!!! You are lucky! And so is he!!!
    I loved your vacuum post! I am like you,,,love to vacuum. I have an Electrolux upright, and I am getting ready to need a new one soon. So happy you were able to get your nice new machine!!!!!
    Take care Debbie, and I am thinking of you!!
    xo Kris

  3. How wonderful to have a great husband. I am so thankful for my husband. He is an amazing man and will always be my hero!

    Keeping you in my prayers, Debbie.

  4. Your husband sounds like a wonderful guy. Such a blessing to have someone who is so willing to serve you and care for you as you are caring for your mom. will be keeping you in my prayers

  5. What a treasure...his shoulders are wide, enjoy the strength he is a gift from God to you.

    Take care of yourself as you give out to your mom

  6. You do have a keeper. I know that I could not have done the caregiving I did without my husband's ongoing help either. Praying that your mom will regain her strength and that you will find renewed strength as well.

  7. You do have such a sweet husband to do that. I think this is so sweet. Really Debbie I think you are so hard on yourself. I don't think you whine at all. It is hard and to do all you do even without your knees hurting. You are so sweet and God has you in a challenging place. You are a good reminder to me.

  8. A wonderful thankful heart for a wonderful man! my dh is the same, especially with me and my mom, he always puts everyone first.
    Debbie I think you both are doing such a fine job caring for your mom, and God knows it too,
    Praying for complete healing for your mom, and continued strength for the journey for both you and your DH.

  9. Hi there, Praying your haircut was a blessing and sweet relief. I just wrote down, for my daughter, that His grace is sufficient for thee, His strength is made perfect in weakness. I know you "KNOW" that verse but I'm praying it for you right now. Sending big hugs to you tonight.
    Love, Noreen

  10. So nice reading about your thankful heart for the kind and giving husband you have :)

  11. Having a supportive husband does meant he world. Mine has stood by my side for the past year and a half of my overseeing my Dad's care. That has been such a journey and I can't even imagine what i would be if he lived with us. Oh, me, how tough! Praying for you!

  12. Life is so much better when you have someone you love to share it with. But it's even better when they are kind and go out of their way to help. You've got a keeper!

  13. Your heart is kind, caring,thankful and inspiring to me today. What a sweet tribute to your husband and how great it is to hear that come from anyone's mouth. Your spirit through it all, inspires me again today. Praying for some unexpected blessings for you on this Friday.

  14. What a sweet husband you have - a gift from God. Praying for you, dear one.

  15. Debbie,
    I can so relate to all you've written here. I too have been sick for 20 years and I too have IBS. I was my moms only care taker when she had cancer and now I've been caring for my husband who has needed a complete spinal reconstruction surgery for the last 3 years which he had done this past Nov so now caring for him has gotten harder because he is now even more limited. So I know what it feels like to be so tired and in so much pain that you can't even feel your own body.. Your husband is a wonderful person who obviously loves you very much. When my mom was ill my husband worked 3 jobs and tried to help me out at home best he could too..Hang in there. Eventually it will get easier..

  16. He sounds like a very kind man! I hope everything smooths out for you soon.

  17. you are such a sweet gift to your family,
    and i am glad your husband is a gift to

    caring for an elderly parent is exhausting
    and heartbreaking. well done.


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